{"id":251,"date":"2015-12-15T10:00:41","date_gmt":"2015-12-15T17:00:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/?p=251"},"modified":"2023-06-13T21:37:33","modified_gmt":"2023-06-13T21:37:33","slug":"make-people-laugh-when-youre-not-funny","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/make-people-laugh-when-youre-not-funny\/","title":{"rendered":"Make People Laugh When You&#8217;re Not Funny"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Half\u00a0of the time when I tell a joke, you can hear crickets. I&#8217;m just not that funny. How do you get laughs anyway?\u00a0\u00a0You steal them!<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->There are classes on humor and all kinds of techniques you can learn to be funny, but it&#8217;s a lot easier to <strong>steal<\/strong> laughs.<\/p>\n<p>I didn&#8217;t say you should steal <strong>jokes<\/strong>, I said you should steal <strong>laughs<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h2>3 ways to Steal Laughs<\/h2>\n<h3><span class=\"number\">1<\/span> Steal a reaction<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/laugh.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright wp-image-256\" src=\"http:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/laugh-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"laugh\" width=\"272\" height=\"181\" srcset=\"https:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/laugh-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/laugh-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/laugh.jpg 960w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 272px) 100vw, 272px\" \/><\/a>Let&#8217;s start with the most obvious way. Whenever you conduct a class or presentation pay attention to audience reactions. Every once in a while, someone will respond to something you say with a one-liner that makes the whole room laugh.<\/p>\n<p>Write those moments down.<\/p>\n<p>Next time you teach the same subject or share the same content all you have to do is followup your example by telling the story of the laugh.<\/p>\n<p>For example, for several years I taught classes on\u00a0retirement benefits at an organization. My humorless version went something like this:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>In case you are not aware, one of your employee benefits is a $55,000 lump sum death benefit.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>But then one day, as soon as I spoke, a gentleman\u00a0in the back of the room called out. <strong>&#8220;Don&#8217;t tell my wife!&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Everybody laughed.<\/p>\n<p>I made a note, and from that day on I got to steal the laugh. I replaced my humorless version with this:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>In case you are not aware, one of your employee benefits is a $55,000 lump sum death benefit &#8230; One time when I mentioned that, a gentleman in the back called out &#8220;don&#8217;t tell my wife.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Everybody laughs.<\/p>\n<p>I got to steal the laugh without stealing the credit.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"number\">2<\/span> Steal momentum<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/husband-and-wife-funny-jokes.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright wp-image-259\" src=\"http:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/husband-and-wife-funny-jokes-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"husband-and-wife-funny-jokes\" width=\"273\" height=\"273\" srcset=\"https:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/husband-and-wife-funny-jokes-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/husband-and-wife-funny-jokes-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/husband-and-wife-funny-jokes.jpg 450w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 273px) 100vw, 273px\" \/><\/a>The second way to steal a laugh sounds hard, but it&#8217;s not.\u00a0It works because of &#8220;priming.&#8221; Whenever the audience is already laughing, they are primed to laugh more.<\/p>\n<p>That means that once people start laughing, almost anything you say next will be funny. Your follow-up doesn&#8217;t even have to actually be funny, because you&#8217;re stealing the power of the first laugh.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t try to make them laugh, just wait until it happens, and then have the courage to say whatever snide remark pops into your head.<\/p>\n<p>Most of us don&#8217;t say it because &#8220;it&#8217;s not really that funny.&#8221; But if they are already laughing at something else, your random thought doesn&#8217;t have to be funny.<\/p>\n<p>Just say it! 9 times out of 10 your &#8220;un-funny&#8221; add-on will get another laugh.<\/p>\n<p>When the man in the back made fun of his wife wanting to knock him off for the money, I just added whatever came to mind.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;Don&#8217;t tell my wife,&#8221; he said.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I added:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;Yeah, I guess it&#8217;s not really your benefit after all&#8211;it&#8217;s hers. You&#8217;re dead.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>No! That&#8217;s not funny. But guess what? They laughed.<\/p>\n<p>When everyone is already primed to laugh at the first joke, all I had to do was steal the momentum and get the second laugh free.<\/p>\n<p>All you have to do is have the courage to say out loud the thought that pops into your mind when you hear the first laugh.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"number\">3<\/span> Steal the callback<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/burglar-300px.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-265\" src=\"http:\/\/michaelspeaks.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/burglar-300px-208x300.png\" alt=\"burglar-300px\" width=\"208\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a>If it&#8217;s funny, It will be funny again, and again, and probably again. Have you ever noticed that comedians sometimes tell 2 or 3 nearly identical versions of the same joke?<\/p>\n<p>The 20th time you probably won&#8217;t get a laugh anymore, but you&#8217;ve got at least 2 or three shots to repeat the prime and get another laugh.<\/p>\n<p>Once the audience has laughed at a specific phrase, they are primed to laugh at those words. Whenever you repeat the words, they&#8217;ll repeat the laugh.<\/p>\n<p>Pay attention to all the the times the audience laughs. Even if you had nothing to do with it and the laugh happened 3 hours ago from another speaker, write down the words that primed the laugh.<\/p>\n<p>All you have to do is find a place to slip those words into ordinary conversation.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It looks like we&#8217;ve finished our class half an hour early this afternoon &#8230; don&#8217;t tell your wife.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Suddenly everybody laughs again, and goes home happy.<\/p>\n<p>I never thought of a single funny thing. I wasn&#8217;t funny once. I just stole other people&#8217;s laughs.<\/p>\n<p>You can steal them too, and when they laugh they&#8217;ll give you the credit!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Half\u00a0of the time when I tell a joke, you can hear crickets. I&#8217;m just not that funny. 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